The delight of being misunderstood!
I stopped explaining myself when I realised that people only understand from their level of perception. Just then I found joy in being misunderstood!
George Bernard Shaw put it like this: “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”
The more you grow, the more you undergo a lot of personality changes; you get stronger or sometimes softer and weaker. You may catch yourself disliking the things that used to be a personal favourite, or you may start experimenting with things you have never done before. In scares odd circumstances you will be the same person you used to be 10-20 years ago!
During this personal growth and evolving phase, you'll create a mess, make mistakes, and screw up just often enough to ensure everyone around you are human AKA creature that is really far from perfect. You can do everything everyone else expects of you and live to please others, you can do it most of the time or even all the time which comes at a prohibitive cost which is the lack of boundaries.
Eventually, you will be the villain in someone else’s story if one day you wake up, decide to stand up for yourself, and prioritise your needs. Let's think of the following scenarios; you’re planning to move away from home, quit your job, break up with your partner, or even cancel a catch-up with a friend that has been asking to see you for weeks. Whatever you decide, you will know it’s the right decision for you at this very moment, even though it will cause disappointment or upset someone else for some time. Just learn to embrace being misunderstood if it will bring you the peace you need. People will never understand or relate to your internal battles as you are mostly judged by your happy or calm exterior.
There are always two sides to a story; once you realise that it is all a matter of perspective when your actions disrupt other people’s plans, they will be the protagonist of their own story, as far as your efforts will go in opposition to their desires. Yet, on your side of the story, you just wanted to be assertive enough to fulfil a wish, upgrade your life or pursue the best course of action for you!
As you keep levelling up, please prioritise yourself and find no shame in declaring that the person you were last year doesn’t exist anymore. Following your heart may mean going against someone else’s heart sometimes, which probably hurts.
Thank you :)